Reply to Does your spouse owe your parents financial assistance?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Does your spouse owe your parents financial assistance?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our philosophy is anytime we can help someone in need we do it. And don't expect to be paid back. It's a gift.
That being said we pay our grandson's vehicle insurance. Because he is in college and would struggle to pay it. We bought him a truck for graduation and regularly send him gift cards for gas and money for whatever. 
We make sure my sister has groceries and gas. We send my BIL cat food monthly.
We regularly send money and gift cards to our son and DIL. And whatever they may need.
No we are not wealthy. We just saved and invested. Our needs are few our wants are taken care of.
So we share. We do it for many reasons but the most important one is LOVE.   
Our selfish side, it makes us feel so good. We don't even expect a thank you. 
I know they are grateful and that's thanks enough.[/quote]

That’s great for your family, and it would be nice if OP’s parents could do the same for their own children.  But, OP is just starting out and doesn’t yet have the means to be able to be so generous with her family.  She and her DH need to work on establishing themselves first, and that may take years.  Right now, her family of origin’s debts and needs have the potential to drag everyone down with them.  OP needs to set limits so they don’t ruin her marriage and her and her DH’s financial future.  If she doesn’t, they’ll all be drowning but there won’t be anyone left to save them.  OP should not allow it to get that far.  Self-preservation is not being selfish.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics