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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just to be anal about terminology, "leash laws" are actually ordinances in most jurisdictions, like parking laws or littering laws.  You can be ticketed for breaking them but they do not carry any greater penalty and you must be "caught in the act," as it were.

OP, do you might the slim chance that you will get a ticket occasionally if the neighbor calls at the exact time that you are playing and the police arrive before you are done?  If not, you don't really have a problem. [/quote]

OP here, I wouldn't mind the occasional ticket, but that's not the point.  What I mind is that the friendly gathering place has turned into conflict.  As her neighbors we can't let a situation continue that scares her children or causes her to go nuts.  That's not fair to her.  I am just totally sad that five families that really enjoyed an area (exclusive really to just our homes) are going to have to quit meeting with our dogs because of one family.  Like I said, we will try and work it out with her, but I kind of resent that some of you posters are assuming that we don't care about our neighbor's feelings.

My four year old cried before he went to bed because he was convinced she was going to kill our dogs.  I don't understand why people can't work things out instead of threatening to call the police and scaring my kids.[/quote]

It kind of is the point because it changes the power dynamics of the situation.  If you keep doing what you are doing (because you are comfortable with the possible financial penalties) while at the same time trying to work with her and compromise with her about how you will use the shared space then you can work to reach some sort of agreement.  Also, you haven't said who owns the land on which you are playing.  If it is the HOA, you can work with her and the HOA to establish a "legal" dog park on the spot. (I put legal in quotes because it is private property so there isn't an actual legal issue with the town. Any HOA can choose to fence any part of its property for this use as long as it does so in accordance with its bylaws.)  If it is owned by another homeowner then you can get that homeowner's permission to use the land and you will not be violation of leash laws.  You just want to think strategically about how to use the advantages that you have to work out an accommodation that everyone is comfortable with.  There are ways to work within the system to handle problems like this.  What you don't want to do is assume that the other party holds all the power in negotiations.  [/quote]

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