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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here to answer some questions.

Reception is at a country club that my sister belongs to. I do suspect my sister didn't want us going and just felt compelled to invite us. My sister doesn't like groom's kids and 2 of them have babies - She told my mom that's why she made it no kids (so the groom's kids wouldn't come). At that time, my mom asked about my teen and my sister said she's invited because she's a teen (not a toddler/baby) and told my mom she'd make sure the place would be fine with that. I suspect she just didn't want us there and why she changed her mind after telling me and my mom my teen is invited.

My sister tends to prefer her friendships over her family. I don't say this with malice or judgment - it's just the way she is. For example, for years I'd try to have a family Christmas or holiday dinner the weekend after the 1st because my sister would always go to her husband's family for the holidays. She would always prefer to go out with friends instead of visit with my parents and us. My parents are from out of town so they'd be flying in for holidays and will be flying in for my sister's wedding. I even tried for a couple years to move the dinner to a night she'd be available. She would cancel the night before or the day of saying another event came up.

My parents have no opinion of the groom. They pretty much leave that alone. they have only met him once. And that was after they were engaged and my sister wanted my parents to meet him.

I don't want to go without my DH because honestly, I know my teen would be incredibly hurt and upset if she found out she wasn't invited. When the invitation came, I tried to talk to her and explain it might be for grownups she cried and said her aunt loves her and she IS invited because her aunt talked to her about the wedding. What I want to do is let my daughter think that the ceremony is all there is for the wedding (we'll all probably do something the night before anyway, like a dinner or something) just so that my daughter isn't hurt. I'm sorry some of you think it's weird or unusual, but for this I'm putting my daughter's feelings ahead of my sister's feelings. I actually think my sister wants it this way - she didn't want her fiance's kids there and I don't think she wants us there.

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Lying to your teen is just stupid.[/quote]

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