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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would recommend your kids avoid pink collar jobs: nursing, teaching, interior designer, librarian, etc.  Even though they often require extensive training, skill, and hard work, they tend to pay less under the guise of being "family friendly" while high paid tech bros roll online at 10am in their pajamas and make 4x as much.[/quote]

I disagree. I used to work in finance. I was the only female. I made a lot but I worked with all guys who had stay at home wives. It wasn’t sustainable being a mom. I wish I had a pink collar job. I didn’t even know what that meant until recently.[/quote]

That’s only because you are married to a DH who makes good money and have kids. My kids for whatever reason are not interested in that at all — maybe they will change but building a career where the man is the plan is not my advice. But I thought nursing was more on par with and engineer or consultant in pay, and if you went into like hospital administration could make near $200k. But maybe I was wrong? Does pediatric nursing pay better, my cousin does that and raves about it (but she lives at home, I thought to allow her to travel and own dogs but maybe it’s more about the money?)[/quote]

I used to earn 200-300k in finance. My bosses made 500k+ to millions.

Dh was not the plan. I actually thought I would be the breadwinner. I earned more than him when we first got married.

Dh surprised me and was more successful than I expected. He earns seven figures. [/quote]

Sigh. I guess you couldn’t hold back from rooting your DH horn.

You are exactly the model DH wants for our kids, to pursue high paying lucrative jobs, earn a nest egg, and then either advance, coast, or I guess snag a Big breadwinner.

I was replying to your comment “I wish I had a pink collar job”. You only wish that b/c DH is off making “seven figures”. If you actually had to support your lifestyle off the pink collar job, you would not have “rose pink” colored glasses. [/quote]

NP but I AM the breadwinner in my family, making three times as much as my husband and I want to remind you that there IS a middle ground between traditionally female jobs like nursing and teaching and high-pressure jobs like i-banking and consulting. In fact MOST jobs are in that in-between. You do need to think outside of the box a little, PP.

I'm confused though - are you the OP talking about how you want  your kids to be breadwinners and not have mommy jobs, or have you hijacked the OP's thread? [/quote]

I am OP. I’m speaking of what my DH wants for them, hence his strong aversion to pink collared jobs which are hard work, low pay, and billed as “caring professions to sucker you in” (his words).  He has a somewhat mercantile view of the world and feels you should make as much money as you can early, then either donate to good works or have a “fulfilling” 2nd career. I’m more moderate where I say just aim for a solid UMC career where you can afford a house near us here in DC or a nice thriving city with good schools, saving for retirement, and not plan on a DH to make that happen.

The thread started because I had considered nursing one of those UMC pathway jobs, assuming since doctors make sooo much money, nursing wouldn’t be so bad. But I actually don’t know any nurses (my family is all in tech or business), and DH grew up in a place where a lot of parents were nurses or EMTs, and like the default career for girls at his school was nursing.  [/quote]

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