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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Were you being a b?[/quote]

I was being annoying. I wanted to take this certification class for work that would cost 4k. He thought it was too much and a waste of money and to explore cheaper options. I felt hurt that he would just put down what I have wanted for a while and call it a 
"waste."

I raised my voice and said it is not a waste to me as it would give me a certification and it hurts me that he can't be supportive. [/quote]

So you yelled at him because he didn’t want to spend $4K on your training. You need better argument skills. Do you yell every time you don’t get your way?

Don’t you have $4K why do you need his money.[/quote]

Oh it's the poster who always blames the victim.  Did you finally get banned from Reddit,?[/quote]

The H is the victim here. She was screaming at him and throwing things.

He said a word, not a nice word but… Get some perspective.

She threw a temper tantrum because he wouldn’t give her $4000[/quote]

Fifty bucks says you’re a guy who is either divorced or never married.  [/quote]

No I’m a married woman of 25+ years who doesn’t yell at my H when we disagree over how to spend money.

OP needs to get a grip.

She was screaming at her H, step 1, walk away if you are frustrated, wait 20 minutes for your body to regulate, request a time to discuss.

Or use your own money and never have the conversation.[/quote]

The fact that you sound like a divorced dude should tell you something. Why do you believe it’s “his” money? That’s usually a misogynist male attitude. [/quote]

The fact that OP Admitted that she was the one who started yelling first and you’re defending her and you think  only a misogynistic Male would defend him says a lot about you.

She was wrong first. He is wrong too but she needs to stop starting fights and playing the victim. It’s extremely immature and toxic.[/quote]

I didn't defend her at all. I just find it telling that you'd say she needs to get "her own" money to pay for this. If you don't think a husband's money is a wife's money too, you're coming from a misogynistic perspective and your entire interpretation of the situation is suspect. [/quote]

No it’s not misogynistic to “have your own money”. If I’d tell  a dude to use “his own money”  too. Why do you assume he makes more money or has money to give? That’s misogynistic. [/quote]

I don't think it's mysoginistic to require a woman to use her own money.  Isn't that what at least the beginning of feminism is about?  Equality.  Women are just as capable as men and deserve the same rights .  No longer being property of a husband, suffrage, equal pay etc (different things over about 60 years).  I deserve to be equal, if I'm equal I don't need a man to pay for my things.

Op, just save the money yourself.  If the certificate is that important, you will save the money and feel accomplished once you achieve it.  Also, why isn't your employer covering this certification?[/quote]

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