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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do women do this for men? Seems a bit sexist to insist only men do something like that. [/quote]
It's also sexist that more women are raped and sexually assaulted than men. So until that stat evens out as well, I'd day expecting a smidge of concern at 12:30 am is ok.[/quote]

+ YES - thank you![/quote]

Disagree.  Do you expect everyone in your circle to call or text you when you are out of sight? When you go to the store? Leave or come from work or the gym? You and op  were not in any more danger than you were at any other point during the day.

The idea that you need a guy to check up on you this way comes from the same system of beliefs that feels women are essentially helpless children who should have a male guardian at all times and ironically it's the same system of beliefs that promotes a rape culture.[/quote]

:shock:  :shock: 
You feel safe as a woman waiting alone for an Uber at 12:30 am on a date with no one knowing where you are? Nope. This is foolish.  My friends, sisters and my co-workers, we all are careful, aware of our surroundings and we usually travel in pairs and group text each other when we reach home. With some of my friends we do a quick facetime.  Heck,  I insist on one of the security guards to escort me to my car in the parking lot if I am working late at night at my work, because there has been incidents of rape and mugging (in Silver Spring BTW).

I don't have to  cut off my nose to spite my face.  I am happy with equal opportunities, equal pay, paid maternity leave and flexible work schedules - in terms of seeking parity with men.  All men that I have dated till now will either escort me home, walk with me to my car or wait for me till I get my taxi, uber, metro etc.  Maybe it is just my pretty  privilege??  I just don't want to be a victim of violent crime and maybe I do have standards of how I want to be treated.    I would have expected this level of concern even if I was visiting my sister. I would have expected to wait with me for the Uber in the lobby or in her apartment and then see me off.  BTW - I also always take a picture of the licence plate of the ride and text it to my friends.  I have a smartphone and know how to use it.   Helpless women are those who cannot take these sensible steps to keep themselves safe. [/quote]

Yes honey and I also have traveled the world alone too. Depending on your boyfriend to keep you safe is not a strategy for self preservation. It's childish and limiting behavior.[/quote]

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