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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nobody ever admits that they regret it.  If the impact on children is bad, they are in denial about it.[/quote]

No regrets at all. My kids are fine. Minimal impact of divorce. It is not really a big deal unless people are immature and have a disaster of a divorce. If finances are maintained and parents are civil and coparent fine, divorce is not a big deal. Regret not doing it sooner.[/quote]

See, that's what people say when they are in denial.  Are some kids fine?  Sure.  But not as many as divorced people would have us believe.[/quote]

No one is in denial. My kids have an infinitely better childhood than I had with miserably married parents. Had almost no impact on them at all. No financial impact, no moving, we are flexible in seeing them, 50/50 custody and not strict about days, no fighting, same neighborhood, same schools, same college fund, same retirement account. Lived as separate in the house years before divorce as well as separate holidays with our families...there has literally been almost zero impact...except they got an extra house 6 minutes away.

[b]If they complain in the future, honestly, I am going to say "Cry me a river."[/b] I had an awful childhood despite the appearance that everything was fine. It was awful. My kids have two parents who love them who are not married. They lost nothing except us under the same roof. Hardly the end of the world.[/quote]

While it seems you had a “good divorce” the bolded makes me question you and your parenting.  Just because kids aren’t in an abusive situation (which I would assume you were) doesn’t mean they won’t question things and may need counseling to deal.  It’s sad that you are that unavailable to their thoughts

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Stop assuming divorce is the worst. My kids are likely better off than yours. There is nothing to question. It was obvious it was not a normal marriage. We coparent fine. Most people are too emotionally immature to handle that. [/quote]

You seem really defensive and the fact that you can't admit the divorce has had ANY impact on your kids is telling. It's ok to say yes, they were affected but are still better for it. But to deny any effects...that is just impossible. Their lives changed fundamentally, they were impacted. Pretending otherwise is just denial. [/quote]

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