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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see lots of threads on DCUM about regrets not divorcing earlier. What about the other side -- do you regret divorcing your ex? Since the question always comes from somewhere, here's my situation: husband had a long term affair that ended when I found out several years ago. He almost got into another (if not acted on it, but I can't confirm and he denies). I buried the feelings and moved on in the marriage and its been....fine. I am now at a place where I'm at least ready to deal with the betrayal and am taking concrete steps to do that, and that could lead me to a place where I want to leave the marriage. I have to heal me, first, regardless of my relationship status. But then...??? Lots of big scary things. We have elementary/middle school aged children. So, back to my question....do you regret your divorce?[/quote] Yes I regret both our divorce and the things I did and he did and our lack of insight regarding the lifetime consequences of divorce for our children and larger family groups. It’s awful. Absolutely avoid if you can especially if it’s about preferences or work or messy husbands. I’d even consider not divorcing over affair because those are usually passing distractions. You don’t get to see what it’s like to live with two houses, two sets of complex finances, new spouses, new step kids, and constant tensions over things like birthdays grandparents holidays, etc etc etc. Bwing divorced is less a relationship status and more of a lifestyle, with young kids, and then with older ones too. I’d take being somewhat unhappy to being divorced with my kids bearing the burden of two homes, any day . [/quote] Some divorces are like that. Some are not. There are no tensions over holidays, kids like two houses, there won’t be more kids or spouses. Parents have the power to mitigate any “consequences.” Sorry for your situation. [/quote]
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