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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you for this thread, OP. I posted recently about when to go to AL, and have toured a couple of places. One of my brothers was supposed to talk with her about finances and legal stuff so we all would know her financials and wishes. For whatever reason he wasn't able to connect with her so I stopped by on Sunday after touring a place near her. I had The Conversation about falling, and we want to keep her safe, how much money do you have in savings etc etc. Not a fun conversation but it needed to be done and I was tired of waiting for my brother to do it. On my way to her place, I remembered this thread, and how sometimes you just have to let go of having them die in the safest way possible and let them make their choices. So--I told my mom the decision was hers to make and we'd all respect that (and told my siblings the same--that as long as she's not suffering from dementia, we need to respect whatever she decides.)

I told her that her living alone is a risk, that she's at risk of falling and being on the floor for 17 hours again, she's at risk of breaking another bone etc but if she's willing to assume that risk and is OK with it, then we are too. I told her some of the advantages of the AL places--someone will check on her every few hours, still has her own apartment, has someone to stand by while she showers, has showers instead of tubs, etc. I don't know what she'll decide, but I want to thank you for raising this topic. It was very timely for me.[/quote]

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