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[quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry your son was made to feel uncomfortable. I agree the daughter’s comments were rude, whether cruel or thoughtless.  I wish the incident hadn’t occurred, but you can take away from it an important lesson. While wearing pullups is nothing to be ashamed of, if is private. While it is normal that some will take longer to sleep through the night without issues, the majority have put those issues behind them and will not understand (or may have similar issues of their own that they’re sensitive about).  Tactless as the daughter was, her remarks pale in comparison to the kind of cruelty his peers may dish out if they discover his issues.  You need to prepare your son by putting his situation in perspective, planning ahead of time how to be discreet, and how he can respond if the situation comes up again.

I fully sympathize OP. I had a six-year old kindergartner who was still having an occasional daytime accident, which is a worse situation than your son’s pull-ups. We don’t ever want out kids to be hurt. However, rather than expecting the wotld to be kind and blaming them when they’re not, we have to teach our kids to see the world realistically- some will be kind, some will be cruel, most will be in the middle (I suspect the daughter in your story fell in the middle category), and how to successfully navigate that world.

I wish you and your son well and hope you don’t give up on your friends. I know I’ve occasionally made comments that I regret and am still kicking myself over, but with no malicious intent. 
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