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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s as if your DH can’t find male tutors? Troll or clueless OP. Thailand, are you kidding me?

What’s the point of catching him? Ask yourself that. Focus your energy on you.[/quote]

Seriously. It sounds like he’s learning Spanish. Every other person speaks Spanish. I find it hard to believe he can’t find a guy.[/quote]

OP here again. Almost all of his tutors have been women in the 20-30 age range.  He says they are more energetic and upbeat than the generally older male tutors he’s interviewed. They also charge less. [/quote]

A married man doesn't have to be a Mike Pence-type weirdo to know that it's probably more appropriate to have a tutor who isn't a woman young enough to be his daughter. Your husband could just be totally clueless in addition to innocent, but men who have integrity and a reasonable amount of insight would make the choice that avoids any hint of impropriety. There are many ways to learn a language that aren't unregulated private in-person sessions, and there clearly are men he could hire if that's the type of learning he really wants.

I'm not saying that he's doing anything inappropriate but unless he's one of those bumbling idiot types of men, he has to know how this might look to others, and particularly to you. [/quote]

OP here.  Maybe, but most of the au pairs we had years ago were pretty attractive, and they lived with us, so were around constantly.  True, the age difference was not as great then, but it is not unusual for him to be around a younger woman in my presence (I think his hair stylist is a youngish woman too).

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OP enjoying your posts about all the ways in which older men can encounter younger women - nanny, tutor, hairstylist, language immersion in Thailand (lol) oh my!  Some people have noted that your DH might be gaslighting you by dismissing paranoia you claim to feel about him supposedly interacting with this supposed tutor, with your supposed hot nanny and with other women.  But is it possible you are gaslighting us with your DCUM fan fiction to try to cultivate a sense of “paranoia” in your dear readers?[/quote]

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