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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be prepared with some replies OP!

Usually just saying “Okay.” And cheerfully letting things roll off your back works well to deflate these types of comments. Think of it as a game. She’s trying to needle you and you can’t let her win.

One or two times during the visit you could look concerned and say simply. “How are you doing Barb? Is everything okay health wise?” Follow up with “it’s okay. We don’t have to talk about it now.” You could reframe how you talk about it to your husband too: “Has MIL seen a doctor recently? She seemed really afraid to drive in the afternoon.” Mention that a friend said one of the early signs of dementia in her mom was rigidity with schedules and insisting on dropping mail directly at the post office first thing in the morning.” Things like that.

So ypu are suggesting that op become like her MIL?  I think op should rise above it and not be churlish or childish.
Play the game. I guarantee “Concern” will annoy her much more than anything else you could say.

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NP here. I liked PP's advice but I'm a petty b!tc# and I own it.  [/quote]

Op - I actually do like my mil And am concerned about her and don’t want them to drive in the dark if they don’t want to. I work crazy hard and have had a difficult year and 24th is the only day I have off work which isn’t full family or travel (we go to my parents on Sunday). I just wanted some space and genuinely do need to protect my mental health a bit. Mil knows we have had a hard year (dh laid off twice and other health factors) so I’m just bummed that she would feel the need to push on this and make it personal. It’s not personal I’m just trying to keep my head above water and also it should be fine for humans to communicate about a convenient time for a guest to arrive without guilt [/quote]

LOL.  Now the sob story commences.  OP is like Marie Antoinnette:  "But, but ... I only meant for them to eat cake AFTER eating a full and hearty meal with lots of vegetables and protein ... "  Sigh.

This is how you know you're dealing with a TROLL or CH, folks.  When someone comes on, posts and is clearly in the wrong, seeking validation, and then keeps unfolding with little tidbits of information that are supposed to make us feel sorry for her.  Some bored loser with a drama addiction.[/quote]

A lot of people got laid off this year or otherwise had a hard year.  This comment is terrible.[/quote]

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