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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Gosh, I was full of teen attitude when it came time to go through the college admission process.  I don't know if I was freaked out about leaving home or just intimidated or what, but I was not willing to take the lead despite being an excellent student.  I just wanted to focus on senior year and my ECs.  Fortunately my mom stepped up and made me do it.  Did she want to?  No.  Was I a cooperative participant?  No.  Would many here disapprove?  Yup.  But it worked out a million times better for the both of us that I got into a good college and left home the following fall.  I ended up excelling in college, attending grad school on a full fellowship, and having an excellent career, all without any parent assistance.  Notnapplying and floundering at home wouldn't have been good for either of us.

Sometimes teen are going to teen.  Parents are there for a reason.  No judgment here.  I don't know how it will go with my kids, but I'll do my best  for their longterm success, whatever I think that looks like at the time.[/quote]
+1 agree.. I posted up thread.. my teen DC told me that I needed to push because they are teens, and they sometimes need pushing. They will push back because they don't have the maturity and experience to understand the long term consequences of certain choices.  My DC doesn't think I'm a tiger mom or helicopter mom; I don't push them to do everything, but, there are certain things that I do push them on, and college app is one.

DC is a junior, and I've started to push DC on looking into what colleges they are interested in because we need to start looking at college tours.  DC already chose a major, on their own.  But, most kids need some guidance. Complete hands off approach doesn't work for most teens in this day and age.

I did everything on my own, and it was tough, and I don't think I made great choices early on.   I wished that I had someone to guide and push me.[/quote]

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