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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is that after years and years of dating that goes nowhere, when I finally start dating someone and it seems to go well, I'm cynically waiting for the other shoe to drop.

If nothing has worked out so far, why should I believe this man should be any different?

I am attractive, thin and in great shape, I have a good job (spare me the lecture about men not caring about careers - the point is I can support myself and I'm not looking for a man to prop me up financially), but I'm not young. When I date a man who seems honestly interested in me I'm waiting for there to be some kind of catch. [b]As if something must be wrong, or at least off, with him if he's that eager to date a woman approaching her mid-30s.[/b] At the same time, it's possible a man could be asking the same about me "She's not ugly and not fat, so something must be wrong with her if she's still single at this age." But the answer is I just haven't found the right person, and during the times I had found the right person, they either moved away or had some life event that ended things. It's just been bad luck.

Of course, the common thread is me, and it could be my cynicism that is a self-fulfilling prophecy. I just always assume I'm going to be used. [/quote]

There's your problem. It's the guys who think women expire at 28 who have something wrong with them.

Are there men like that? Sure. Do you want those men? Nope.

I dated from 33-35 and attracted many high quality men, probably more than when I had dated last in my mid-late 20s. Yea, there were creeps, but there's always gonna be creepy dudes.

Most men I spent time with seemed to feel the same way about "25 year old baristas" as I did - immature, nothing in common with, not interested in paying or taking care of someone, poor conversation skills, and WTF is with all the weird Snapchat filters. A man who finds a 25 year old interesting and more pleasant to talk with is likely at the same maturity and intelligence level, and not someone you'd want to waste time on.

If you're an interesting person who can hold a conversation, you've got nothing to worry about. Take everything dudes online say with a huge grain of salt - most are unappealing to women and can't get laid, so they have a huge axe to grind. The only people who obsess over sex and rank women based on imagined sexual experiences are people who aren't getting any action. [/quote]

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