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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m honestly shocked at this thread. I’m Arab living in DC and admittedly have limited insight into other cultures (including the dominant white people culture). I never would have thought that white men also have an issue with women in their thirties, I thought that was something cultures like ours have to deal with. Why is this the case? When I was husband hunting (I say it as it is!) I frequently wished I was a white girl, not because of looks (I’m attractive and attracted men of races other than mine but that wasn’t an option) but because I was envious of the wide pool that I assumed white women in their thirties have access to. I ended up making a rational decision by marrying someone who, while I wasn’t head over heels over and isn’t as successful as I was shooting for, has a good job, comes from upper class family (important in our culture) and is a good person. [/quote]

It's a cross cultural thing because it's a biological thing. Men want young(er) women. Why would a man in his late 30s marry a woman in her late 30s when he could marry someone in her late 20s?[/quote]

No sane older man who has option between 30s vs 20s women would choose the former. [/quote]

I really don’t see it playing out this way. I’m early/mid 30s and married but my unmarried friends date and enter into relationships with men their age. Some are now engaged/recently married. They are all normal, nice, reasonably successful people. Maybe it’s just the men I know but they seem entirely on board with dating women their age. [/quote]

Dating women in their 30’s vs marrying a women in their 20’s is very different. If a man has the options he would always go younger. This is why there’s an abundance of middle-age women that are lonely in a dating cycle. [/quote]

This just really isn’t true, and the fact that you generalize it to all men discredits you completely. I have not observed this in real life, although my community is comprised of nice, normal, middle class people; I’m not in high society. Perhaps it’s different in that realm.

My husband couldn’t have given a F about my age. Both my brothers married women in their 30s and it was a complete non-issue. Most of my girlfriends married in their mid-30s (we were in nyc where there are so many singles of all ages).[/quote]

Are you white? [/quote]

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