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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lawyer PP here. I am not saying that my JD prepared me for child rearing. I am saying that the same qualities that made me successful at my career make me a good mother. I have been good at school, sports, well, most things, my whole life, and suspect many of the DCUM working moms are the same way. I am good at learning things, a hard worker, like doing things the right way without short cuts, etc.  That is what makes people successful in all areas of life. Why on earth I would believe that the (maybe) high school graduates who do not speak English as a first language would be *better* at taking care of my kids who are learning to speak, think, etc., is beyond me, so when people say that of themselves, I cannot understand it. I understand what your preference is, but please stop acting like despite being a straight A student, varsity athlete, obtaining multiple degrees, speaking multiple languages, etc., like all of the successful and competent moms out there, you just would be doing junior a disservice if you tried your hand at child care.  [/quote]

But it's okay for DH to outsource childcare to you? Get over yourself![/quote]Actually, I have outsourced the earning to him. I used to work while he finished graduate school, and now we are focusing on his career so that I can stay home because we think I am the best person for the job.  Taking care of one's own children is actually a luxury for most who do it, and not a result of being victimized by sexist husbands. I appreciate that most working mothers in this country (not those on DCUM, who are generally more like me in that their husbands work and with lifestyle changes they could probably work less or not at all, too) do not have this luxury. I am talking about the professionals who I am always hearing say that someone else can do it better than they. It sounds so disingenuous. (Oh, and it actually kind of sounds like you think you are too good for it--as in, I don't do windows or child care while I could be doing high level memo writing, etc.). I don't actually care what you do, but please stop acting like you are just allocating the jobs to those most capable when you are among the most capable people in the country (and brag about that) in so many other ways. It is hard and you don't want to learn how to do it right because working is much easier. I understand. I used to work. It was much easier. Now, just stop using this dumb excuse and I will shut up, too.  [/quote]

Do you even hear yourself?  I wonder how often your kids see their father....

I could quit my job, but that would mean DH would have to get a MUCH MUCH higher paying job essentially work double the hours he works now.  We thought about it, and it is not what is best for our kids AT ALL.   And you are in denial if you think you're as good as a woman who has helped care for hundreds of babies.  You aren't.  Your child will be no more special than the thousands of children of professional families in this area, I can guarantee it.[/quote]

He sees them every night and all weekend.  Ok, you win, someone with more childcare experience is better than I am at it. I probably should not have wasted all this time LEARNING how best to care for them (MY children).  The fact that I am the children's mother is likely irrelevant to them anyway.  To each according to his abilities, right? People should hire wet nurses with high milk supplies and night nannies with sleep training experience instead of doing any of the child care. They are the experts, after all!! Of course that is ridiculous. Just please stop saying to people at your kids' birthday parties (super defensively) that you are so grateful for your nanny because you would just be so bad at the job.  It makes you sound like a liar, as well as that you think the nanny is too dumb to appreciate how shitty a job she has. [/quote]

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