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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does being 30 have to do with it? If he doesn't respect you, bye![/quote]

SHe wants kids and think he may her last shot.

OP, I think you wrong on this. If he had said staying in the house with extreme precautions made him uncomfortable, would you have started going out more to make him happy? No, right? You'd base your activities on your own risk assessment? That's what he did.[/quote]
OP I did have to go out more! I did wind up having to see his extended family every week (because he claimed they were cautious - his grandparents are insane rightwingers and were in fact, not cautious!) and he didn't protect me enough! He'd claim that his family had been so, so cautious that week and then I'd see them on the weekend and his father would announce they'd gone to an indoor wedding, and my bf was pretty much like, "What do you want from me?"[/quote]

Why did you go? Why did you keep going every week?
I'm seeing several red flags, from both your behaviors'. You giving in and feeling resentful + him never acceding to your requests --> nobody very happy.
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OP he pretty much told me that if I didn't see his family every week, it would indicate we don't have similar values. His family is very important to him. Because of this, they needed to be important to me.[/quote]

This is the deal breaker. Your entire marriage will be this way. He could have just told them you were not comfortable with the indoor visits at that time.

Anything regarding his family will have to go his way. Holidays? His way. His mom in the delivery room? His way. And on and on. Run!!! [/quote]

This.
And as another poster noted, this is a bigger deal than the Happy Hours.
You, your concerns, etc. will always be second to his career, his family, and probably a bunch of other things in his life.
An important question for you to ask yourself, OP:  Why were you ok with this treatment? If it is truly because you don't think that you will be able to find anyone else and have kids then ask yourself what about when he treats the kids this way?  Are you soo scared of not having kids that you will settle for someone who might not treat them as badly as he treated you?
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