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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a ton here. Ranting and raving about how awful cheaters are on every thread, name calling, immature snarkiness. My ex-husband had an affair, we separated, we reconciled, he did it again, we divorced. It was painful, it was ugly, but craps happens. Heal and get over it, and move on with your life. Giving non-useful advice isn't going to heal you. And all the AP/cheating husband name calling in the world isn't going stop them.

Do betrayed spouses get therapy, or is bleeding all over DCUM therapy for you?

Just wondering.[/quote]

I can tell this thread is a bash women thread so we should ignore[/quote]

[b]Exactly. OP is not a "healed wife"[/b][/quote]

OP here. You are correct, I'm a healed EX-wife. The point is to make a choice, get some healing and move on. [/quote]

You aren't that either.  People can  post about their cheating spouses  how many times they want in whatever way you want. If you don't like it skip the thread.[/quote]

Never said they couldn't. In fact, what I originally said was, "Ranting and raving about how awful cheaters are on every thread, name calling, immature snarkiness."

I definitely AM that.

It's just difficult for a lot of you to believe that a woman can be betrayed, divorce and then move on and have a healthy state-of-mind which is so freakin odd to me. It's ok if you or anyone you know that has dealt with a marital affair isn't there yet. From the comments I've read, I'm assuming healing and moving forward doesn't happen for everyone, but that is by choice. It is a choice to stay stuck on that painful affair and be bitter about it. I [b]choose[/b] not to live that way. I have a life of my own to live and a child to raise. My ex-husband moved on to live a life of his own so what should a woman in this situation do?? Stop living?!?! Be angry all the time?? Jump on every thread and every time a woman says she's an OP or a man says he cheated in his marriage I just go full on attack?? Every single one of us has choices in life. Some stranger on an anonymous board calling you names is NOT going to change your mind about what you feel is right.

I'm going to choose happiness in my life every time and name calling strangers on an anon forum would never heal any of the hurt I endured.

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I think it's not your place to tell other women what they can and can not post about, especially with a condescending and misogynistic attitude and presentation.

[b][b]You are in no way healed[/b], but you are incredibly self-righteous.[/b]

IF you don't like a thread skip it.

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My guess is you're one of the ones posting these bitter comments all of the time. Let it go, boo. There's joy on the other side if you let it happen.[/quote]

you would be wrong I haven't been cheated on at all. I however greatly take offense to misogyny and [b]incels[/b] attacks disguised as helpful advice.

If you actually cared about these women and wanted them to know life could be better your entire post and approach would have been different.

You are nothing more than a misogynistic and racist troll.[/quote]

OP here. Incel?!  :D  How did you gather that from anything that I've said?? Or do you even know what an incel is. My guess is no, you don't. You just toss out ignorant comments because you don't have anything intelligent to add here. I care about women enough to tell them that HEALING IS POSSIBLE AFTER A BETRAYAL IF YOU JUST WOULD LET IT GO AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE and stop posting angry comments to every cheater and AP here!!! But I guess you didn't get that part. I've said it more than once in this here thread.

I am a woman so your "misogynist" claim is baseless, inaccurate and just...DUMB. I'm saying that therapy and healing are both possible after a betrayal and that posting nasty comments won't lead to healing. You're are an absolute imbecile and clearly haven't read or understood a thing I've said in this entire post.

Again, I am a black woman. Should I point to you every reason why it's impossible for a black woman or person period to be racist because clearly you are ignorant in that area. By definition a racist: prejudiced against or antagonistic toward a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, [b]typically one that is a minority or marginalized[/b]. I am marginalized in our society so it is literally IMPOSSIBLE for a black woman to be racist.

I don't even know why I'm taking the time to explain any of this to you. You clearly don't get it, and never will. [/quote]

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