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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the parent of a child that behaves like this I can tell you that he’s been in therapy for years.  Yes he has mental illnesses.  He is medicated and has been inpatient numerous times—the first when he was 6.

As a  family, we’ve been dealing with this for a long time.  What you heard was jarring to you because you’ve never heard it before.  As a someone that lives with this day in and day out, I know when my son is saying out of control things with intent and when he is just looking for attention.  His siblings also know.

The behavior wasn’t impacting you.  As others have said, you don’t have to invite the kid over for a playdate.  And to the poster that commented about raising a sociopath—you have no idea.  The mental health crisis in this country is horrific.  I’m in support groups with parents that have kids sitting in ERs for WEEKS.  The hospitals are trying to discharge the kids to the parents and the parents are saying they won’t take them home; that they need help.  The public doesn’t see all the help that parents try to get for their children only to find that help is not available.

OP—no it’s not NT behavior.  I hope you never have to experience the judgement of someone like you as you do your best to parent the kid you have.  May your family never have to deal with mental health issues.[/quote]

For some kids its mental illness, some kids its parenting.  The difference is you got your child help and these parents are ignoring it.  If your kids behave like that in public, you don't take them out.[/quote]

I would disagree with that.  What you’re advocating is that people who are different shouldn’t be seen in public.  That’s pretty old school thinking.  As a society, we need to be accepting of all types of people.  If they aren’t hurting your family, let them be.[/quote]

I don’t agree that the behavior wasn’t affecting OP’s child, and surely the “I want you to die” comment was affecting the child’s sibling.  It’s not harmless for a child to be exposed to verbal abuse, it’s highly distressing, and we don’t want children growing up to think that sort of targeted, hurtful language towards others is in bounds.  Certainly the nerf stuff and roughhousing is a different category altogether, and much more typical behavior.  [/quote]

PP, you remind me of some friends of ours who did not meet up with us for the weekend when they came to DC, I later found out, because it would have been "too distressing and sad" for their 5 year old to deal with our kid's disability.  There are disabled persons in the world.  They exist.  I have no idea if this kid has special needs, is having a bad day, is a brat, or whatever.  But it's not this family's responsibility to alter their lives so that your little precious is not affected. It's your responsibility to teach your child about disabilities and answer your child's questions.[/quote]

[b]Asking someone to take their child home from a playground if he is shouting “I want you to die” at other children, or at the very least a visible time out, is not to much to ask of anyone.  And we have no idea if there is any sort of disability at play here - you suspect there might be, but we certainly don’t know that.  I do believe all parents have responsibilities, and that can be asked without judgment of the child in question.[/b][/quote]

Not what happened here.[/quote]

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