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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Extremely weird for someone who claims to have a degree in English literature to deride this woman as silly, in part for her love of “chick lit”, and then invoke Austen.

You get Austen was considered silly in her day and even by many since then, right? That writing novels, especially “domestic” novels focused on women, family, romance, and home life, was considered anti-intellectual and silly?

I don’t tolerate people who are rude in my life and to me that’s the real offense. But I’ve also been around (and been married) long enough yo understand that marriages are much more complex than what you see on the outside. And I especially understand how the institution of marriage continues to entrap many women in sexist stereotypes. Particularly women who marry high earning, “important” men. You get relegated to the domestic sphere and then assumed to be beneath your husband intellectually, despite the obvious fact that your unpaid labor supporting him allows him to achieve that status. It can be so hard for women married to men working 80 hours a week, travelling constantly, married to their jobs. It is lonely. But you can’t complain or look ungrateful for his hard work snd what it buys your family. No one will believe you if you say you’d be happy with a smaller home or fewer material goods if you had more of a true partner. And then even if you throw yourself into your role as wife and mother, this will be derided as unserious snd unimportant.

It’s precisely the kind of double bind Austen write about. You are right, OP, that it’s a situation ripe for fictionalization. Right down to the jealous acquaintance misusing her literary knowledge to indict a woman she’d like to replace.[/quote]

OT but as an English teacher I love that so many people on here read Austen![/quote]

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