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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If a 7 year old senses this much favoritism it's probably because she's sensing OP's frustration with her mother.  It didn't happen organically.  [/quote]

Simply not true. By that age it was easy to tell my grandparent preferred my brother. He was younger and the only male grandchild in the family. It baffles me as an adult how my parents just let it happen and didn’t say anything or acknowledge what was happening.

With my own children it is also blatantly obvious but my older child pulls no punches and outright calls her grandparents (my ILs) out when they get like this, bragging endlessly about one of her cousins while not acknowledging her in any way. I’d guess she was about 8 the first time she piped up when they were raving about how athletic her cousin is and told her it was fine she wasn’t because she was a girl. A girl who runs 5ks, does swim team, plays softball, etc. So just patently untrue statements from the grandparents.[/quote]

OP here… I secretly would love for DC to call them out on it. I truly wonder how they’d respond. [/quote]

Yikes.  I cannot believe you wrote that let alone secretly dream it.  This one statement proves that you are the problem...that you want a 7-year-old to initiate a fight with the grandparent?  You are completely unstable and should not be a parent.  Sheesh.[/quote]

I merely meant that might be all that would get through to them is realizing it affects DC. When I’ve talked to my mom about the favoritism before, it fell on deaf ears or she got extremely defensive. Probably because I’m not the golden child, nothing I’ve ever said to her is met with an ounce of thoughtfulness or consideration. That’s all I meant. Unless you’ve been in a truly narcissistic relationship, you can’t understand how it feels to never ever be heard, especially when you have the best intentions. Not being heard is a huge reason we are somewhat low contact … it just gets exhausting. So yes, I do wonder if they would take concerns more seriously if it came from DC’s mouth vs mine.

I think you made quite the leap that I’m somehow mentally unstable and unfit to be a parent. If I didn’t care about my kid, I wouldn’t even be concerned about any of this in the first place. [/quote]

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