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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have money, it's just really hard.  Outside of special occasions (birthday, Christmas), we don't buy dc toys. He gets a small allowance, which is slightly increased if he does certain chores.  He is allowed to spend half, but he has to save half (we pay him interest on the half he saves).  We have successfully (albeit unintentionally) convinced him that we're poor.  He is not "entitled" in the way most people use the word (when our house was on the market, he asked me if, when we sold the house, he could buy a pack of Pokemon cards). Tonight, he announced that he wants to get a job (he's nine).

However, and this is a big however, we live in a very nice, but not huge, house in an expensive neighborhood.  The kids dc hangs out with on a day to day basis are exactly like him.  Nice kids with nice (and well to do) parents.  I knew we had some work to do when he came home from an outing with a friend and announced that we needed to join the country club because "everything there is free!".[b] It's very easy to raise a kid that is not "entitled" who still has no understanding of the reality of the "99 percent." it's possible to show them, but it takes work when everyone they know well is just like them[/b].

I know someone will now announce that this is why they send their kids to public school. But really, how many people on this board send their kids to a school with real economic diversity, and if you do, how many of you regularly take your child to play dates to the houses of friends who are substantially poorer than yourself?  (and I'm not talking "lives in a condo in NW" "poor.")[/quote]

So how do you get your child to realize he's part of the 1% without creating an "us/them" dynamic? I take my kid to volunteer at a shelter and until recently he always really loved hanging out with the kids (and still does) without noticing that they had much less than him (parents in different circumstances in a number of ways). I want to point out the differences but also like that he raelly identifies with the person rather than their circumstances. iDEAs?[/quote]

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