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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think most cheaters would cheat even if they were in a good marriage with a great spouse. I have seen it happen. There is something broken in some people that makes them cheat. I think some people need the chaos and risk factor vs. a stable marriage.

I wish there was a reliable way to vet people like this, but they tend to be really good liars. Their track record should be taken as a warning, yet some people think they can 'change' a cheater - pure delusion.[/quote]

That broken thing comes from their background and what they experienced growing up.  Experiencing Alcoholic parents, neglect, cheating, divorce and/or abandonment as a child.[/quote]

None of the 3 people I know who had affairs fit this description. They were in bad marriages to begin with. And eventually they divorced and married their APs. Sometimes a marriage is a mistake...and in those cases, cheating and divorce often occur. [/quote]

Cheating is for people who like the marriage enough to stay.  It basically indicates that there is something you like about the marriage and there's some need that you have that you aren't willing to admit. Cheating is by nature deceptive.[/quote]

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