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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymou[b]s]My MIL is younger and she still doesn't really want to be hands-on with the kids.  I feel like they are more props for her social media than anything.[/b]

She is definitely also delusional about how DH was as a kid.  If I tell her something about one of them (e.g., my 1yo started using a couple of words like "dada" and "ball") she will just respond by telling me about how DH did that so much younger (spoiler alert: no he didn't, and even if he did, it had nothing to do with MIL bc she was 18 when he was born and his grandmother raised him).[/quote]

[b]Performance grand parenting! We have that in our family. Grandparents visit or we visit them and they have no actual interest in the children with the exception of taking a photo for the Christmas card. They otherwise ignore them, get annoyed if the children ask a question or ask if the grandparents would like to read, play a game, etc. Our kids, at 6 and 11, have long since stopped bothering to even ask since the answer was always “no” and now we have pouting long distance bored isolated grandparents who have a sudden interest in FaceTime to break up their days. Kids are not interested. You reap what you sew![/b] [/quote]

We have the bolded dynamic with my inlaws as well. They are local though. I dread going to their house because there is nothing for my kids to do there (we can't leave toys there because "clutter") and they don't want to play with the kids. They just want to repeat their long boring stories to the adults while ignoring the kids. At least if they come to our house our kids have all their own stuff and I can busy myself in the kitchen or fold laundry or something during the boring conversations. [/quote]

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