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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I am a unicorn.  I kept my maiden name but I also prefer , in a social,situation, such as Christmas cards, to be known socially as Mr. and Mrs.HisName LastName, and the HisLastName Family.

I will not get riled up at ALL with ANYthing written on our correspondence, however,  people are nice enough to send us something?  Thank you, and I appreciate it.[/quote]

Can I ask you why you kept your maiden name then? I agree you might be unusual, though as people can see from this thread, there is a spectrum.

Keeping my name was very important to me when I got married, as was making sure my kids got both my name and DH's name. I'm not sensitive about it, but it's my name and I do correct people. If it had not mattered to me, I likely would have taken DH's name because it's easier in many ways.

I have even put up a general PSA on Facebook that if people are planning to send holiday cards, please address them to both my DH and I, and provided options for doing so. Early in my marriage I did get frustrated when so many people just assumed I'd taken his name and I hadn't, and then when our kids were born and people assumed they had only his name. I definitely made a point of letting people know at that time because if I was going to keep my name, I wanted people to use it.

When people get it wrong, I politely let them know what my name is and I do expect them to make a note of it and get it right the next time. If someone does it repeatedly, I also assume they are trying to make a statement about their opinion on my name, and I adjust my opinion of them accordingly.[/quote]

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