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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've lived in our neighborhood for 10 years.  I feel that our neighborhood is cold, aloof and unfriendly.  I want to get to know our neighbors better but I feel like they are not interested.  Here's an example of why I think this:

Three years ago we got new neighbors on one side.  We have two kids, at the time, ages 5 and 7.  One week after they moved in we all went over with a lovely gift basket and introduced ourselves.  This was pre-Covid.  We had a quick chat for 5 minutes and they didn't invite us in.  Since then we've never actually  talked to them again, and this was 3 years ago. They are never outside.  They now have two kids, ages 1 and 3.  Did they decide in those 5 minutes that they didn't like us and we weren't worth getting to know?  Pre-Covid we had a few backyard BBQs and invited them.  They never RSVP'd and ignored the invites.  Occasionally we'll see them taking their trash cans down and we'll wave and they'll wave back and that's it.

Two years ago we got new neighbors on the other side.  At the time our kids were 6 and 8. They had one kid, age 2.  The week after they moved in we went over to their house and brought them a welcome gift basket.  We talked on their driveway for about 20 minutes.  We've seen them out walking maybe twice since then, and had a quick 2 minute chat--pleasant but not friendly.  All summer they had deck parties and they never once invited us.  We never see them outside.

We are outside playing in our yard or gardening all the time, and when a neighbor walks by, we say hello and have a quick chat.  But we have no friends in the neighborhood at all. Do people just not like us?  We thought we were doing a nice gesture by taking over the welcome baskets and welcoming them to the neighborhood but it didn't seem like it was appreciated. We're even on the HOA committee to try to get to know neighbors.  Over the summer I sent out an email to a few families in the neighborhood directory who had kids to see if they wanted to meet up for a backyard playdate, no one responded.  I feel bad that my kids have no friends in the neighborhood and don't really know any of the kids.

What would you think in this situation?

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I felt every sentence in this. Very similar situation for us in our new neighborhood. I miss our old community so much.  We grew up differently I think. Our neighbors used to be like family.  I just wanted to reach out and say you’re not nosey or clingy or anything else, these unfortunately aren’t your people. Keep searching! [/quote]

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