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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think more women dislike their in laws more than the other way around.  Guys have the ability to let things roll off their back.

-sign a woman[/quote]

Guys have ROCK BOTTOM expectations about their new roles in a family, so it's pretty easy to let that incredibly low status of "attends function" or "is generally affable" be met.

Women often have to recalibrate a new generation to an entirely new way of doing things emotionally.  So yeah, that causes problems.[/quote]

Truly. We also wind up having to educated our own families on these points, too. I think a lot of women are just at the ends of their ropes when it comes to family and the absolutely bonkers expectations on them as daughters, mothers, and wives, and so when their ILs get annoying it's just the last straw. But really it's everything leading up to that.

I will never forget how my ILs treated me after I had a baby. You'd think they'd have some gratitude or at least a little respect towards me since this was their first and only grandchild and my MIL had been lamenting having no grandchildren for years. But the whole time I was pregnant and then after the baby was born,[b] I was treated as an inconvenience. They wanted the grandchild but could have cared less about the woman who brought that baby into the world. [/b]I'll never really forgive them for that. We get along fine, but they really showed me where I stand back then and... noted. But my own parents weren't much better. A lot of Boomers have absolutely grotesque expectations for women and are ready to blame any unhappiness in the world on the nearest woman, especially if she's a mom.

DILs are tired. That's all. [/quote]

omg yes! I was very overdue and finally delivered at 42 weeks. From 37 weeks onward, they asked constantly if I could just have a csection to get the baby out quicker so they could see it already. wtf. Yes, please, just cut me open and get your grandchild out. It was dehumanizing. And then after birth they asked nonstop about my breastmilk supply and were worried the baby (who was a plump baby) wasn't getting enough. They even asked if I could go into another room to pump so they could give a bottle. [/quote]

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