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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ANd please stop asking when they'll have kids or when I'm going to be a grandparent. It's rude.

If they do, I plan on babysitting when I can so they can continue their jobs. [/quote]

My parents claimed they’d help us with childcare too and didn’t. Payed over 3k a month for two in daycare which delayed buying a home and limited what we could spend on otherwise. No maternity at all (Fed) so spent at least five years with no vacation longer than a 3-4 day weekend. Always had to work over holidays due to lack of vacation bc all was spent on maternity leave. 
It was depressing. And no parental help nearby so any night out costs $$$ between sitter and dinner / movie/ show. [/quote]

Yep, this is a factor. My mom always said she'd help with childcare (and she did! For a few months when my daughter was an infant). But 1) she does not want to live where we live, 2) I don't feel it's fair to demand she be a super-involved grandma nanny when I would never be willing to do that myself, and 3) "free" childcare from a grandparent comes at a mental cost, lol; my mother is a wonderful person but we disagree starkly on many parenting things.

I will say, the private sector is catching up to the rest of the world in terms of paid leave. I have male colleagues who took ~2-3 months paternity leave paid, and women who have taken 6 months. It's not Europe, but it's getting closer in some parts of the white-collar job market. Also Feds get paid family leave now. [/quote]

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