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[quote=Anonymous]There can be many reasons that people hide guest lists, so why do we need to wonder about it?

I can only share the many reasons I have to not hide guest lists.  First of all, culturally, we have always thrown large parties with lots of food and drinks and good attendance. We also make it a point to attend as many events that we are invited to and participate in them. So for me, to exclude people is a sign of poor upbringing and some sort of dysfunction (house it too messy, don't know how to cook, don't have good relationships with people, child does not have friends, don't know how to put together a party). If we are not excluding people then there is no need to hide the guestlist.

I always invite ALL classmates (their parents as well as siblings), all the neighborhood kids, all my friend's kids and all my relative's kids.  I send the evite at least 4 weeks before the event. For the class, I also send paper invitations home with the kids - JIC the parents did not receive the invite, as well as an email.  I usually get 90% attendance.  I have heard horror stories on DCUM of no one showing up for kid's birthday parties. That is heartbreaking to me.   With so much advanced notice, I do not fear that no one will show up and I don't fear people declining publicly on the evite. So no need to hide the evite invitee list

Next, I always invite parents and siblings too and provide a meal for everyone.  I also serve adult beverages. I have figured that the weekends are precious to parents and no one wants to be chauffeuring  their kids back and forth. Parents like to take all the kids in one place, make sure that they all are fed, and they can sit back and enjoy adult beverages and talk to other adults - so having an inclusive invite will mean better attendance. The party should look at the convenience of the guests.  I know that I am throwing a party that many people will want to attend so no need to hide the invitees.

I save contacts in a descriptive way in my address book.  No contact will be saved with just the email address like eprt125lxy@gmail.com etc. It will be saved as Emily Pruitt (Courtney's mom) etc. So others can use my evites or emails as a directory and form their own connections. I think having addresses shown publicly help with these kinds of social connections.

Do I expect that the people who are invited will show any kind of reciprocity and include my kid? Not really.  I don't expect reciprocity. I have other social groups and I don't sweat the small stuff.  I am able to entertain the way I want. It has nothing to do with what others do.  So, I am not keeping scores and don't want my kids to see these friendships or invites as an exclusive social group. No need to hide the invites. 
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