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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I think the bolded goes too far, both in characterizing many of the drinkers OP describes as being dependent on alcohol and also in their intentionality in organizing these situations. It sounds like most people the OP describes drink more heavily than is healthy, and that's absolutely normalized in our culture, more than it should be. Probably some of them do have alcohol use disorder. But I think it's more likely a mix of heavy drinkers who like to drink (and, hence, do it at any opportunity) and the aspect of parenting culture that emphasizes alcohol as a way to cope with stress."

[b]You don't understand alcoholism, then[/b]. A major theme is creating situations where alcohol will be around, making sure that it happens one way or another. I'm not saying that most people in the group are doing this - many are just sucked into the fun or social pressure. But I bet $$$ that the folks suggesting the drinking or taking the lead bringing the alcohol are doing a lot more drinking at other times, hiding it, and struggling with it.

And no, bringing alcohol with you to soccer games or to take your kids to the park is not "normal." Every once in a while for a celebration or some other reason? Sure. But not on a regular basis.[/quote]

LOL!  I'm the PP you're quoting, and I'm a health professional who *treats* addiction.  You're misinterpreting my post, deliberately or not.  Where did I say that it's "normal" to bring alcohol to soccer games or when taking your kids to the park?  I didn't.  I literally agreed with you that probably some of these people have AUD.  You need to ask yourself why you're so worked up about a post from someone who was mostly agreeing with you, if not on everything.

Frankly, I found your post judgmental.  You didn't need to bring in all the stigma and shame associated with addiction.  The OP was asking about typical levels of drinking, and most people on this thread said, no, not typical.  There's no need to speculate about the health conditions of the people in these social settings.[/quote]

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