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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's a guest in your house and should be free to do as she pleases and make herself at home. You are being controlled.[/quote]

Wtf? Maybe for a day but not one week. No, it’s not your house, you’re a guest. Which means you ask before you use something and you clean up after yourself all the time. [/quote]

“Make yourself at home” is what people say to be kind and welcoming. It is not to be taken literally. Clean up after yourself to your host’s standards, replace items you use up immediately, ask to use things, be considerate of their space. You can’t actually treat someone else’s home like your own and leave dishes in the sink when you feel lazy, lounge on the couch all day watching tv with a snack plate etc. [/quote]

You are WRONG! This is her MOTHER in law. Does OP want to have a family or not? She should feel lucky she feels so comfortable in her home. She should be grateful to have a MIL who wants to help out. SO what if it's mesy. OP can clean up or her DH can clean up. OP is being too controlling here. She needs to lighten up and enjoy her MIL and let her DH enjoy hs mother.[/quote]

H can enjoy his mother in the family room while she leaves the kitchen alone. Not her house. She’s a guest. Sit down and enjoy the meals your host prepares. Maybe offer to take your hosts out once while you visit. Invading the kitchen, using everything in it, making a mess, and insisting you are breaking in the new kitchen is not your domain as a guest. [/quote]

You are wrong. She's in you home. She should feel welcome and she wants to help you, she's cooking for you. You are being selfish and ungrateful, Try to be a little less controlling and more welcoming. Do what if the kitchen gets a little messy or a pot is put in the wrong space. DH or  OP can  fix it after.  Enjoy the food, maybe take the opportuntity to lear some family recipes.[/quote]

The last time my MIL tried to cook in our kitchen she stuck the electronic meat thermometer in the meat and put it in the oven. It started a fire in our oven. She was not old or infirm at the time. So no, I’m not ungrateful. I’m pragmatic. She would utterly destroy a new kitchen. [/quote]

LOL, so something my mom would do. [/quote]

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