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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What the What?  How do you have a house without food?  Especially if you want to have kids visiting?

And multiple people apparently do this?

My mom was big on healthy eating but there was always fruit and healthy snacks available and at thebjolidays of course there was plenty of food.  It's the holidays.

Are they just imposing their eating disorder on everyone else?[/quote]

This has happened as my ILs age. The grocery store has become their outing so they go every single day and get precisely the amount of food they need for that day. And they expect everyone to eat according to their nutritional needs. So, for example, they go off to the grocery store and come back with, for the two of them and the 4 of us: 10 slices of bread, 5 slices of lunch meat, 5 slices of cheese, and 3 apples. Because the kids can split one sandwich, that’s why they only need two slices of bread and one slice of cheese and one slice of meat for 2 children (and not particularly small children, 8 and 10 year old kids) and each set of two can split one apple.

Yet when they come and stay with us, they marvel over our meals, insist that I just get toast for their breakfast, but then when they see their son scrambling eggs and making bacon, will say, oh we’ll have that too, and then will proceed to take tons so their isn’t any for the rest of the family and then my husband ends up having to cook a second breakfast for himself and the kids. Then they rummage in the cabinets and remark on all the food in the pantry and go whole hog at everything, more times than I can count they’ve eaten the ingredients for dinner while we are at work, so I’ll get home expecting to make a salad and find all the tomatoes are eaten, the cheese I’d intended to use on the burgers is gone, etc. I’ve taken to putting dinner ingredients in stapled shut bags with “dinner 11/18” written on it in hopes they will leave it alone.

This is not at all a money thing, it’s control and disordered thinking and has gotten progressively worse over the 20 years I’ve known them. My ILs are very well off. When they call after they leave they always remark on what a wonderful time they have “vacationing” at our house (an entirely different topic that causes no end of issues) and how they will have to diet now since they were so well fed. [/quote]

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