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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can understand that not working could be a marital perk if the marriage does not produce offspring.

However if one spouse quits his/her career in order to remain @home, providing all the childcare, then I see this as a disadvantage rather than an actual “perk.”

Leaving the work force does not bode well for anyone.
Doing so leaves a gap on your resume + it is not easy later on when you re-enter.

Plus daily childcare is a lot more work than working outside of the home.
Caring for little ones is a ton of mental/physical energy which can be very taxing on anyone.
Plus the loss of personal satisfaction along w/the isolated lifestyle may not be for everyone.

That being said, I do acknowledge that each + every situation will be completely different.[/quote]

If this was true, no educated moms would stay home.  Gimme a break.  Do you believe that all my household chores, all the shopping, cooking, laundry, repairs, bills, homework just do themselves while women go to the office?  Like a little leprechaun or angel appears magically to do it?[/quote]

The point is what is owed to a spouse for staying home. The spouse receives 50% of whatever capital was accumulated during the marriage. They also received all rent, food, expenses, etc. while in the marriage. So the grounds for spousal support would be 1) they gave up time they could have used for job training, 2) they need time to recoup their footing in their career, etc.? That makes sense. On the other hand how do you take into account the case of a spouse who gets the time for training and a career and opts not to use it?  [/quote]

Sorry my dear, but if you are college educated or have a grad degree, and no medical issues or kids with special needs, choosing to be unemployed is not giving up anything.  It's simply not feeling like working and having the privilege to do that.  [/quote]

Righ as it’s far better to pay a stranger to raise your kids or let them raise themselves.  [/quote]

Strangers are raising your children starting at 5 years old; kindergarten is 9 am to 4 pm. 
My MIL is in MD, barely worked from time to time, my FIL got his mistress now wife pregnant and my MIL received alimony for 10 years.  They were married for 25 years. [/quote]

Big difference between school and other times.  [/quote]

Ok, so for families with typical children, the SAHP should rejoin the workforce when the youngest is 5 years old. [/quote]

Sure, as long as the working parent is prepared to be the one to take leave to accommodate schools breaks/teacher work days/sick days etc and flex their hours as needed to accommodate school pick ups and extracurriculars since the former SAHP will likely have limited leave and need to prove themselves as a new employee. Funnily it never seems to work like that and the former SAHP is expected to continue to be the default parent while attempting to rebuild/start a new career from scratch.[/quote]

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