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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - If you go through with the call on Friday you NEED to tell the counselor that you feel she was unprofessional - she was! No counselor should ever tell a client what to do, especially something so drastic in only the second session. It usually takes 3-4 sessions to get to know someone.

I do recommend seeing a lawyer based on your DH's behavior.

Also, i recommend later getting individual counseling later. Find a counselor that you trust and who will help you get over the betrayal and build a life on your own terms (not people pleasing or denying reality).

I'm sorry, and GL![/quote]

All of this. While your husband is indeed a grade A jerk, the PP is right that the counselor was extremely unprofessional. You need to say so. While it's true that both parties have to want to work on a marriage, your counselor could not remotely have known enough about you, your DH, and your marriage to have told you a course of specific action in the second-ever session.

PP is also right re: getting a lawyer, immediately. And sadly you do need to do as others have noted and protect yourself financially ensuring he cannot just clean out accounts suddenly and go. It may cost you but get a lawyer with experience finding assets and fighting for more than 50-50 custody.

[b]Is your child "sick" as in just ill at the moment, or sick as in chronically and/or seriously ill? That ALONE is a gigantic stressor on a marriage. If the latter, your DH may have checked out long ago if he was unable/unwilling to handle the stress of a chronically and/or seriously ill child. I'm so sorry. Only you know if there have been other signs all along that he did not want to parent a sick child. If your child has a chronic issue you will need VERY good lawyering to ensure your child gets the money he or she needs for ongoing care, maybe lifetime care (?), OP. [/quote][/b]

I had the same questions regarding your child, OP. Get a lawyer with experience with families with SN or disabled children. As the parent of SN kids, I can tell you that you have no idea how expensive and time-consuming it can be to get them the services they need. It sounds like your husband isn't going to help with this so your best bet might be to try to get custody and have him pay for supports. Keep in mind that they might need very expensive therapies, after-school sitters if mainstream aftercare won't work for them (very common), tutors, private schools specializing in specific SN, moving to be close to the kid's school, etc.

Also, I'm very sorry this is happening to you. Please heed some pp's advice and wake up to the fact that your husband wants out. Stop focusing on trying to keep him and focus on fighting to get what's best for you and your child. You need at least a consultation with a good lawyer with this specialized experience in divorce with SN/disabled kids. Hugs to you and your child.[/quote]

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