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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I often get excited about seeing a friend and offer to meet up but then either the plan becomes super inconvenient (she doesn’t have a car that day and I need to give a ride, or the time that works for her doesn’t work for me or some such) that I don’t want it anymore. Or sometimes I just remember how she is not that fun and I won’t enjoy it. I am very tempted to cancel but I am also a very reliable person so I mostly don’t. But I am sure a lot of people do.
So either you make it difficult for her, or she is not that into you but forgets, or socially anxious [/quote]

Don’t agree to plans that don’t work for you, and don’t agree to plans with people who are “not that fun.” PROBLEM SOLVED. Be reliable by not pretending like you’re a friend to someone you don’t like. (WTH?)[/quote]

I don’t think I asked? But look, for example I offer to meet on Saturday, and then the friend is enthusiastic but on Friday she says she can only meet in the morning, or she doesn’t have a car and can’t drive. [b]Of course I can’t say then I won’t meet because I don’t want to drive you so I say I am not feeling well[/b]![/quote]

THAT is BS. Just ask to reschedule. "Sounds like this meet up doesn't work for you. Let's reschedule to a more convenient time/place." If she can't drive, or doesn't have a car, these are obstacles that you need to work around ahead of time - meet somewhere near the metro or bus line. Or you go to her. Or accept that you'll have to drive.[/quote]

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