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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On our 2nd session with a marriage counselor over the phone. First time we both do counseling and she straight out tells us we should just end it. I explained that I feel [b]he lies a lot and I know he wants out [/b]but that I want to work on it. She tell us to separate for 3 days and come back on Friday and we should make a decision. [b]My husband loved the idea and is already checking out apartments [/b]and telling me he is putting the house on the market and that I better take the dog or he will take him to the pound. I'm sitting here with my kids completely in shock. The counselor was supposed to help us and my husband is acting like this is over because someone that has known us for 2 hours said so. [b]The 3 days were supposed to make him realize that he wanted to make this work.[/b] He is also telling me he can put the house on the market without my permission because he bought it before we were married. I'm just in shock. [b]He heard exactly what he wanted[/b] and is acting like he got a doctors note to get out of this marriage. I'm not even sure if he will be on the call on Friday. [b]I just can't believe that after just 2 sessions this person can make such a determination without realizing the impact[/b]. We have a sick child and I had a miscarriage a few months ago, yet[b] she gave my husband the okay to leave without knowing the whole story[/b].[/quote]

You're really misplacing the blame here.  Your husband wanted out all along.  The three days were never going to make him realize that he wanted this to work, because he doesn't.  Nothing that counselor said was going to change his mind.  And she's not making him do anything he isn't already eager to do.  I think it's fine to tell the counselor that you think she could have handled it better, but it's not her fault he's leaving.  [/quote]

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