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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please do not serve people. It’s rude and wasteful.

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I agree 100%. Not everyone likes everything; people have diets they want to follow; people have restrictions and even allergies that they don't wish to discuss or defend. Never never ever ever put a plate of food in front of a grown adult unless they specifically ask you to or agree to that when you offer.[/quote]

This is so interesting to me.  I am a chef and plating the meal a certain way is part of the experience. In our home, our Thanksgiving guests are our families and we are well aware of any food allergies.  Since I’m asked to host every year, I guess nobody thinks I am rude (shrug).  You, on the other hand, both sound like very rude dinner party guests.[/quote]

Hello, duh, restaurants are different than someone’s home. A chef is not insulted if you don’t eat Aunt Edna’s creamed spinach. When you order, you can request a substitution or talk through allergies. You can give a sever or chef literally an order, as you are the paying customer. It’s different for a GUEST.[/quote]

A "guest" should graciously accept what he or she is given.  Did you grow up under a rock?[/quote]

We are talking about THANKSGIVING. Not a formal dinner party with a soup course, a main dish, and two sides.

If you think for one second I’m going to eat green bean “casserole” because you glopped it on my plate, think again. I eat turkey and the sides of my choosing. And no, Gladys, I will not be choking down creamed onions to please you.

If you think there’s no difference between a formal dinner party meal and a full holiday feast, you’re a moron, and clearly no “chef.”[/quote]

Chef here.  There are a few different people agreeing with me.  I didn’t make all these posts.  And many people have a formal meal at Thanksgiving.  And many others don’t.  There’s no wrong way.  My point is only that my way - plating food- isn’t rude.   [/quote]

Yes, it is, when it comes to a multi-side—multi-main, even—holiday feast. Yes, it is. I’m a grown adult and I get to decide what I eat, and how much. Even if everything looks appetizing, I’m not going to eat every single thing at a large holiday feast. I’m simply not built that way—I can’t “stuff.” I want room to eat what I want to eat. I may have—not an allergy per se—but a sensitive tummy when it comes to this or that, and I don’t want to discuss that with you.

Plating food at a holiday feast for other adults is rude. ***Asking*** them if they would like you to plate for them is fine. ***Offering*** to do so is fine. Just doing that is not fine, and it is rude.[/quote]

I am not the Chef, just a different poster reading your back-and-forth.

I have a question for you:  [b]Have you never gone to a dinner party at someone's house before?[/b]

I'm not talking about a backyard barbecue.  I'm talking about a nice dinner party where you're all seating at the dining room table and dinner is served by either staff or the host.  Normally for a nice dinner party the food is plated in the kitchen and served to you.  In fact hosting a nice dinner but serving it buffet style is ... lets just say ... uncouth.

I also think you are mistaking something.  For a traditional Thanksgiving the buffet is used because there is a wider variety of foods that are prepared.  Obviously the Chef is not doing that.  S/he has prepared four or five items that are being served.  It is not like you are going to have options if you prefer sweet potatoes over mashed yet the Chef only prepared rice LOL.

It really sounds like you don't have much experience eating at other peoples' homes or for more formal events.  You might try to dial back your Burger King (we'll make it your way) tastes and experience a little more fine dining.

Again, not the Chef.  Just an innocent bystander reading your posts and wondering what your problem is that you wouldn't graciously accept what you are given.[/quote]

Yes, many times. Including small dinner parties where the dinner was plated.

But a Thanksgiving or holiday feast with multiple, multiple sides is entirely different. It’s so beyond rude for a host to try to control a guest’s holiday meal of multiple dishes—more dishes than any other meal of the year.

And if you’re serving some boring-ass Thanksgiving dinner with only turkey and two sides, warn your guests so they aren’t disappointed in the moment.[/quote]

Look up the word rude.  I don’t think it means what you think it means.  [/quote]

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