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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would love an excuse to throw a big lavish friends and family party now. Thankfully DD’s happy to let that be on her wedding day. Of course her and her brothers will have our help with their first house and we’ll pitch in/pay for the sons’ weddings too. [/quote]
Just hope the brothers/sons are ok that sister gets full wedding plus down payment. And sons “only” get wedding as needed plus down payment. [/quote]

I hope my son will realize the money we pay for his sister’s wedding is a family expense (to be enjoyed by everyone like a family vacation where we pay for everyone) and not like we are giving her the money for her own expenses. They will get equal amounts for down payment. They got equal amounts for college because they both went to same state school.[/quote]

Np. Seriously?! Dh and I paid for our own wedding. My in-laws thought just like you and didn’t give us anything. I’m not sure my Dh enjoyed living off ramen so we could afford a wedding while his sister got gifted 50k the next year for hers. Pure sexism to only pay for daughters. [/quote]

Aaaaaand this is how you alienate your children.

OP, this is archaic thinking. Your daughter's wedding is a family expense?! My ass it is. You're picking and choosing your old fashioned traditions. If you're going to pay only for your daughter's wedding with no equal compensation to your sons, you should withhold college tuition from your daughter because this era of thinking also did not think women should be educated.

If you want a giant blowout wedding for your own sake (and I can only imagine this will end up on a Carolyn Hax letter some day), fine. But you need to also give your sons the same money towards their own weddings.[/quote]

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