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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, stop talking about breastfeeding with your husband, today. He has made it clear that he does not want to hear about it or engage with you about it anymore. If you need support and companionship around it, find a moms or LLL group. Many meet online.

Are you going back to work at some point? Figuring out how to relate to your spouse w/a baby in the mix is a big part of the transition.

I get that you are very immersed in the details of this and want to discuss it with someone daily, and perhaps you want attention and validation, all quite reasonable wants/needs. Your husband has made it clear that he is not going to be part of that re: this issue. So, find other sources for that and center your relationship with him on other issues. He is not going to cheer you on and feel like you are a great mom b/c of this, someone else might, but he has been clear. Stop talk of flow rates of nipples, drop it all from interactions with DH.

I breastfed for a long time with each of my kids but I see this as a relationship dynamic for you not a feeding issue. It is the first of many relationship dynamic changes  you will need to navigate. It would be great if you were exactly on the same page, but that is not the case and not all that likely, you are 2 different people. He is not matching the anxiety and energy you are putting into this and wants to not be involved. What is something that the 3 of you can connect doing? Ways to play and relax together?

Is the kellymom site still around? Lots of discussion of breastfeeding there. Find a mom tribe and don't try to get attention or praise from your DH re: this. Baby doing well, gaining weight, great. The baby will be eating solids in just a few months.

Before cv it was easy to meet other parents of babies at music or gymboree type classes. In the spring maybe those will pick back up.

Hang in there, OP. You are a good mom. Glad the little one is doing well. Make sure to connect with DH re: things that are not about baby, date nights, etc. [/quote]

Thank you. [/quote]

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