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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What kind of income do you have? Does he have? This makes a difference for a working mom. [/quote]

OP here. I currently make $80k but will be making close to $150k with this new job. I’m 30 and just don’t want a baby right now. I’m entitled to feel that way and have kids on my own timeline. Nothing is perfect and things don’t always work out like you want, but I’m also not willing to have kids where I will be the main parent when I’m not ready. He brings in a lot of money but works a very demanding job. I will end up being the sole parent and my career will be the one affected the most if we have kids. He wants two kids back to back, so that means two kids in 2-3 years for me if it works out. I’m not ready to become a mom at 31 and have to put my career on hold. I would rather work up a career for 3-5 years and then have the ability to scale hours back or work PT when I have kids.

This is the reason I broke up with him. No one is at fault and neither of us are wrong for wanting what we want. We just have a different timeline. I’ve decided not to get back together with him. [/quote]

OP, you are really immature and your ex is better off without you. It is not so much about whether you want kids now or later, it is about your priorities and they are all set wrong. Even if you wanted kids today, they are not going to just pop out when you want them. You are trading likely long term happiness for short term gains and chasing a definition of success that has led many down a very unhappy path. I truly hope I am wrong and it works out for you…..but I have seen this move before.[/quote]

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