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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I'd call my sister and tell her all this. I'd tell her I didn't realize I had become such a burden to her and was interrupting her life with her family so much. [b] I was hoping to have some support from my sister as this is a particularly hard time.  I get it if you can't do that anymore,[/b] but it would have been better if you had told me that yourself instead of running to mom to do your dirty work.
 I may or may not give her a chance to explain herself. I may just hang up.

Then I'd ghost her.

I'd also skip the next 2 Sunday calls from your parents

Sign up for all the things that you have wanted to do, Be the fabulous person you are.  If you don't like DC  enough to stay move back to NYC or  somewhere else.
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There is a great difference between some support vs. all support. You cannot get all your needs met by one person.  Her sister is not a bottomless barrel of support. She is human; she gets tired of supporting too.

OP's sister was wrong to tell her mother, but if OP is this unaware of just how much she is depending on her sister, it's possible that her sister told her to scale back and she did not listen.

OP's sister has been amazing(coming over every single day? - does OP help while she is there or does she take time away from other pressing things that her sister has to do?). OP should scale down to once or twice a week. And she should offer support to her sister in some way. The period of "emergency" support is gone. The relationship has to be mutually supportive now.

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