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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry, OP.  So sorry.  How is your relationship with your sister?  Can she be a buffer and give you some time alone with your dad?

I would go.

My mom died from dementia.  It was heartbreaking  on every level.  But I was with her the day she died and I have so much peace about her death because of it.  She was delusional and mostly speaking gobbledygook at the end, and lost her ability to swallow, but she could smile.  And in the end, I told her many things about what a good mom she was (she was not a good mom, actually, but she had a lot of trauma in her past and she did try to be a good mom) and told her how much I loved her.  She always had terrible depressions and suicidal Katy and was always so hard on herself, and one point during her final hours, her eyes were loses and I was petting her forehead and I said, “I wish you knew how much I love you” and her eyes snapped open and she said…VERY slowly and deliberately, “I.           Know.        How.    Much.       You.     Loved.     Me.”  And then she took my hand and closed her eyes again.

It was the first grammatical sentence she had said in weeks.

It was last thing she said to me and I will treasure it forever.  My brother, in contrast, didn’t come and said he did t want to see her like that.  For me, I was gifted a treasure I never expected.

You never know.  I will wish you moments of peace and grace.  [/quote]

😢[/quote]

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