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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who have experienced dementia are saying she should go. How great that one pp presumes only she had experiecne with a dying parent who had demenentia.
I would not change a thing about being there for my dad. He had dementia. Dementia is not all the time not remembering anything.
It is full of lucid moments and recognition. In hospital, my dad's face lit up with the biggest grin when my DH showed up to see him. DH was working overseas and came. My dad knew who we all were, on and off. He knew to tell my teen DD who was there all the time, that he loved her the most of all of his girls, and he had two daughters, and that he is telling us to always make sure we treat her as his princess.
The goodbye is for you, op! And for you dad, but mostly for you.
Do you know what happens when you don't really see a loved one before death? Or close to it?
You don't really understand that they are gone. You wake up in the middle of the night and think about something you will ask or talk about and only then, when you wake up, you remember that you loved one died.
Many of us who live far away understand this.
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+1  I agree with you.  My FIL has dementia.  Don't get me wrong, it is a horrible, horrible, horrible disease.  But there are moments of grace.  And I wouldn't miss one second of the time he has spent with us (he lives with us) through it all.  I think OP should go visit her dad no matter what.[/quote]

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