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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For op and others who are saying they could not visit due to the quarantine rules, I would be shocked if FMLA did not apply to you. You could or could have taken unpaid leave and gone to see your parents.

My sibling is a doctor who claims he can’t visit my disabled parents for the same reason. I do all the work, at the expense of my career. It’s bullshit. He could take fmla and come see the, and help share the load. And yes he can afford it. He has a beach house and a country club membership that he could sell if he can’t.

It’s all about priorities.[/quote]

Way to pile guilt onto the OP. You’re projecting your own resentment toward your brother onto the OP. Physician here.  There was an actual moratorium on time off at my hospital during the height of the pandemic. I had to beg for a day off for a medical appointment. The only way to take time off for us was to end up in quarantine ourselves. Yes, you can technically take FMLA but then you’re leaving your colleagues in a bind, who are already spread so thin and stressed/burned out. [/quote]

+1. That’s not fair. I’m a teacher, not a doctor, so it’s much different. But still. DH and I don’t live near our parents and siblings and we constantly get asked why we can’t take time off to come help. OP has her own family too and you can’t instantly take FMLA, pick up and leave your job and family to go help across the country.  We are also asked why we can’t take our parents and have them live with us for a while. Also not that easy to transfer all of the doctors and specialists, plus making the elderly leave their home to go live in a busy house with kids. What we can do is offer financial support and try to get them to outsource help. [/quote]

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