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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP — you are getting better at articulating the problem as you continue to post. I suggest you continue to hone your thinking before you really sit down with your husband and discuss this.[/quote]

I agree, there seem to be many issues at play here. The money issue. The work issue. The passive issue. The financial choices made that are making change difficult. The parenting alone issue. I can understand how anger can grow and swirl until one is angry about everything. How the anger keeps one up at night. But maybe write down a long brain dump on every single thing you're pissed about. Then come back to it a day or two later and bullet point it. Then think through, unemotionally as possible, how to talk with the other person about it. A therapist can help a lot with this.

I've had so much anger with my parents in the past few years over many things...financial choices, family secrets, passiveness. I can't "divorce" and they aren't bad people, they just have no ability to initiate a change in any way or talk about important stuff without defensiveness. It's hard because the anger has put a wedge in the relationship on my side. I'm working with a therapist on how to handle it and accept it, it's helped a lot. Good luck.[/quote]

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