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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm a previous pp with ADHD I am also a woman. Also highly intelligent, and working in a field that requires a high level of focus. I function okay at work, but it literally zaps all my energy and all my focus so that it's nearly impossible for me to get things done at home.

I am very fortunate that I have a spouse who doesn't expect me to be Susie Homemaker and is capable of other tasks.  There's plenty I do around the house. Lists and reminders help. Groceries are a struggle for me even with a list. [/quote]

But do you get nearly every item on the list wrong or botched up like OP’s wife does?  Milk is a good example.  The 2% has a different color label or cap compared to the skim. If you’re buying your milk at the same store week after week, you are going to notice the color of the cap.  A two year old could figure out that one.  You seem sincere; however, from OP’a description I’m not buying that his wife is an unfortunate victim of adhd, overwork, or an unsympathetic husband.  [/quote]

Honestly, it depends on the day, and I definitely did so more frequently before eI was diagnosed and took medication. It's really hard to explain to someone without ADHD how much of a nightmare something as basic as grocery shopping can be. I have grabbed what I thought was the right item, only to get home and see it was something else, I have forgotten items, and purchased things I really didn't ned this is all without a list. I have been shopping independently for about 20 years and I couldn't tell you what color tops the milk I buy is.

Y0u aren't alone, so many people wrongly believe that these things aren't ADHD, that they are just lazy, and aren't trying hard enough they think they are being helpful by comparing an adult to a toddler.  Just be grateful you don't have ADHD. I truly wish I didn't.

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