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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the pp with the friend with the eating disorder who only gained 18lbs. I think the OP's wife has very obvious issues with food, and I think it's weird that others are so quick to criticize the op for showing concern.

I have another friend who has a very obvious eating disorder. She hardly gained any weight during pregnancy at all and ran marathon-esque runs daily even when her doctor told her to stop since she was getting massive headaches (and likely depriving herself and her babies of sufficient nutrients/calories). She had smaller babies, fwiw. And, her kids have developed her disordered relationship with food (I've heard them say things like, "Too much fruit isn't good for you because fruit has sugar and sugar adds empty calories.").

It's  one thing to eat healthy and exercise, but everyone should be able to tell the difference when someone has unhealthy issues with food, weight, etc.

I listened to my friend complain about her ob constantly suggesting she eat more and put on some weight, but eventually I said, "If your OB is telling you to eat more and put on weight, then listen to her. She's just doing her job and trying to help you do your job to grow a healthy baby. I know you don't want to gain too much weight, but the problem you currently have is not gaining enough. You need to eat more, and you know it."

She got really, really mad at me. Not at first, and not to my face. Her husband actually reached out to thank me because his suggestions were falling on deaf ears. Long story short, she came around. She started eating a scoop of ice cream each night along with eggs in the morning. Again: she only ended up gaining 18lbs, but at least she eventually got there.

We're old now (late 40s/early 50s) and she's having calcium and bone issues which I suspect are related to her disordered eating. If you look at her, she looks fabulous: size 2, nice chest (that's genetics), very fit, tan, good hair, etc. But she has health issues that are likely tied to her issues with food and weight. [/quote]

OP here. Finally someone who gets it. I’m not controlling. I wouldn’t have brought it up if her doctor said everything was fine. Our baby is measuring within normal range but small because her eating. She counts calories and weighs out her food. She has been doing this for years. She doesn’t eat anything that isn’t organic, pasture raised, or processed foods. I worry that she isn’t eating enough. She works out for 1-2 hours a day and her eating is not enough. She doesn’t do high impact training or anything but she does lots of low impact workouts and walking everyday. Her doctor recommend she eats 1700-2000 calories a day and she only eats about 1500. Her body before pregnancy was shot 1700 calories to maintain her weight. She never ate enough. She will down water to control her hunger if she thinks she ate too much. That’s an issue. I don’t want my kid to grow up having issues with food. [/quote]

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