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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Woman here. Our marriage was a mistake from the beginning. A horrible 10 years. I regret not getting out immediately—I was strongly considering it. I do not feel I was ever really married. I would never ever do it again. I saw no advantage. Only one-sided sacrifice on my side with nothing in return. It was a complete waste and see no reason why another marriage at my age (mid 40s) would be worth it.[/quote]

You have posted about this before.  Of all the posts on this thread, you sound just angry and bitter.  Therapy might help you accept the past and move on, and figure out your role in it.  Marriage didn’t just happen to you - you dated first, got to know your spouse and made lots of decisions to get there.  It’s hard to believe that the day after you got married your spouse complete dropped the mask and became someone else.  Based on your posts, the marriage was literally terrible from day one.  How does that even happen?[/quote]

It happened because we were long distance for a year. I wanted to break up. He wanted to her married. I had strong family pressure. I was in my early 30s and my family thought I was “old.” I am convinced if long distance never happened we would have never gotten married (we were long distance and had to make a decision. My lease was ending…were we going to do another year long distance? No. I had a lot of pressure. I wanted to cancel the engagement all the way up to the altar: I was told that would be a mistake. Well, my gut was right. But I caved to pressure ….that kind of pressure makes you question yourself.

We did not have sex on our honeymoon or hardly at all ever…yes, it was bad and a mistake from day one. We were never really emotionally or physically connected. [/quote]

Most of this feels eerily familiar for me, except I called off the engagement. Got a lot of sh*t for it from his friends (none from my family, surprisingly), but I didn't see the point of pressing through with the wedding just to divorce a couple of years later. We're both much better off without each other.[/quote]

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