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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m genuinely sorry, and I wish you a full recovery. If you need anything, please reach out.

But, I’m sorry—which friend are you and which problem do you have, again?

Are you my coworker whose husband recently committed suicide, or are you my college friend whose teenage son was recently evaluated at the hospital because of suicidal ideation?

Are you my neighbor whose wife recently died of lung cancer, or are you my neighbor who just had a hip replacement?

Are you my aunt and uncle who just lost their jobs and are hastily selling their home and relocating, or are you my uncle who just got out of the hospital from COVID complications?

Are you my friend whose kid has a nasty stomach bug and at the same time has severe arthritis herself, or are you my friend whose father just died?

If all I did was check in on friends, family and neighbors who were going through stuff, it would be all I did all day. And by the way, I’m going through some stuff of my own.[/quote]

Wow.

DP.

You should check in on family and close friends…otherwise, you aren’t really close friends. [/quote]

I do check on them. It’s non-stop. If a few friends fall through the cracks, I’m genuinely sorry. Or maybe I’m more focused on family with severe problems rather than married friends recovering from orthopedic surgery. If you have a spouse, you’re not going to be on the top of my list. My colleague whose husband committed suicide lives near me, and I’m running errands for her and am watching her kids.[/quote]

Well aren't you something - a cross between a non-empathetic sociopath and Mother Theresa. Your posting did nothing to help OP other than demonstrate that if any of her friends are like you, then she is best to drop them. [/quote]

NP here, but I understand the pp's post. OP had knee surgery and will be fine. I was in a serious car accident and won't be ok again, plus dealing with husband's and kids' injuries too. The only person who offered help was a stranger we met at the scene of the accident who performed a much-needed and important one-time favor. [b]It never occurred to me to expect people except family to check on us or do anything for us.[/b] We got some nice messages on social media when we mentioned it, but we didn't even tell people all the specific procedures we needed to get because we're not looking for anything from others.

OP is definitely [b]coming across as very dramatic [/b]and needy given that this isn't life-threatening. I expected her to say she has a 50% survival chance. Post on Facebook if you really want some well wishers responding, but expecting anything above and beyond that is extremely high maintenance.[/quote]

I'm so sorry. I am lucky in that I have a great network (church, neighbors) that have checked on me and we do the same for others. I can't imagine not having that.

Sorry to make people interpret that I'm "dying". 
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If you already have that then no need to come here complaining that no one reached out to you. OP doesn't have that and it seems really needy to expect it given her condition.[/quote]

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