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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Limerance is what we therapists clinically can refer to as "an altered mental state." In layman's terms...You're "out of your mind" basically, (in all due respect!) not thinking realistically, engaging in escapist fantasies to distract you from deeper problems in you and/or your marriage and yet you typically are not very aware of why you might be doing it. And you are not thinking clearly about consequences.  [/quote]

This describes XW's "limerant" affair, which in my opinion was at the level of a mental disorder. Far as I know it was never physical. Indeed, far as I know she did not actually ever talk to the guy about her feelings. She spent all her time obsessing over this guy, and stopped putting any effort into her relationship with me or the kids. To the extent she paid attention to me at all, it was with contempt and indifference. I think she is still limmering on this guy, years after the divorce. She puts just about zero effort into parenting. I do literally everything.

If it is this intense, there is no coming back from it.[/quote]

How did they meet? It’s unusual that it would go that far if they had no real world relationship. It sounds like they must have.[/quote]

They worked in the same building. He is a senior executive. She eventually quit the company. It was basically like these women with delusional disorder who imagine a celebrity is secretly in love with them. Their "real world" relationship consisted of riding in the elevator or passing each other in the lobby from time to time. Yet she was, and maybe still is, convinced they were soul mates. [/quote]
It's like the scenario in the movie Joker where his mother was convinced that Mr Wayne was in love with her and the Joker was their secret love child.

Wow, I didn't realize that kind of delusional could be so real.[/quote]

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